Lost Heart, Mind and Soul?

Posted on by Zaujat Kanyunya

What do you hope to achieve when living life as a pretender? Scoring well in examinations? Landing a good job? Making a man or a woman happy? To be popular? Entering into a fantasy relationship where you are living in a dreamland, the never ending story?

Can you be who you truly are if you are constantly pretending to be someone that you are not?

After acting out these multiple roles, diminishing who you really are,obscuring your true goal in life, and causing you a lot of sadness, loneliness and inner misery, what is the next step? What is it that you are so desperately seeking to make you feel fulfilled and happy, and why? Is it love that you are seeking? A physical relationship? Are you searching for a companion, and if so, what kind, and why? Apply the same question to your job, lifestyle, and all the decisions that you make in life in order to seek this fulfillment.

Or, is it inner peace and tranquility that you are secretly yearning for? Are you on the quest of true happiness? Again, you have to ask yourself: what are you searching for, and what is its value to you? If you do not know, the cycle of make-believe and pretense will continue, and you will keep hunting for various safety valves whenever you are on the verge of breaking down under the weight of so many conflicting personalities. It can be a vacation, pretty clothes, jewellery, piece of music, a nice evening out, or a fancy dinner. But when it is over, you are still like a hamster running on a wheel, exhausted, without a real personality, and going nowhere.

Published by Zaujat Kanyunya

Student of Life

45 thoughts on “Lost Heart, Mind and Soul?”

  1. If we have stability in our attitudes, thoughts, feelings and behaviors, that will determine what our way of being will be and we will be able to act easily with other people.
    And that is having personality. A reflection that moves us to reflection. Very good your post. I enjoy reading you
    Manuel

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  9. very well written. Pretendings can also be a sign of Munafiqat/Hypocrisy. Allah knows the best.
    May Almighty grant us all understanding to be and act as our real selves. Ameen!

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  10. And that part of the journey has great purpose, so that one day after enduring so much we will finally see something that will take our breath away…and our hearts…to realise that all we had been seeking was not ‘out there’ but calmly waiting within for its time to be set free, and become the love we have always searched for…ours ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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  14. A loss of the sense of self or joy of being leads to pretension. Find yourself, know your ins and outs and you can’t help but fall in love with everything around you, including yourself, hence portray yourself in a more authentic manner.

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  16. Great post and very well-written! And I totally agree with this! It’s too much work to not be yourself and to be someone you’re not! I’m too lazy. In this instance, it pays to be lazy! 😀

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  18. Thanks for sharing!.. “It is not easy to find happiness within ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” (Agnes Repplier )… 🙂
    Hope all is well in your part of the universe and all your tomorrows are filled with happiness!.. 🙂

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